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I overheard one of my coworkers the other day lamenting the fact that it’s mid-November and she didn’t feel like she did anything of significance over the past year. She didn’t stick to her resolutions, she didn’t get into the grad program she was hoping to start in the Spring…and there was more. She listing all these things she didn’t do this past year and it didn’t sound like it was in an “oh well” sort of way but an “I’m a terrible person” sort of way.

This month’s intention is to be brave enough to forgive.

What does she need to do? Normally, I’d say she needs to get over herself and get back to her cubicle, but that’s not a good response for a blog post like this, right? What she needs to do is to forgive herself. She needs to forgive the fact that she failed at keeping her resolutions, forgive herself for not staying on track to get into a grad program when she wanted, and whatever else she was complaining about.

But let’s be honest: forgiving ourselves is often times harder than forgiving others. We are our own worst critics, right?

So I want you to do me a favor this month. I want you to let go of the ridiculous expectations you had for this year and I want you to write down everything that you did accomplish this year. Your list doesn’t have to include amazing things like traveling overseas for a month or quitting your day job to work for yourself, they can be simple things like learning to make a mean meatloaf or buying your first pair of climbing shoes.

It’s the little victories, remember?

What are you going to forgive this week?

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One Little Word - Brave via Campfire Chic
The thing about the newsletter today’s blog post came from: I had it scheduled for mid-October but I kept moving it back a few days each week and thought to myself, “I’ll get to it then…when things slow down”. It took me being suck at home with a wicked cold to get my ass in front of my computer to send it to my mailing list. I promised myself I could rest once I got the email out.
Why? Because I realized that I could keep putting it off, keep making excuses, and it would never get out. You’re probably thinking that I’m crazy to hold a nap hostage as I typed this out to my mailing list, how I’m totally irresponsible and probably prolonged my sickness because I wasn’t properly resting. And maybe you’re right.But I viewed it is a 10 minute break from sipping tea and marathoning Covert Affairs (thanks, Amazon Prime). Breaks like this remind me that while I can’t sit in front of the computer for hours and plug away at my ever-growing to-do list, I can do something.

And that’s what I want to talk about today…my secret to getting things done: 10-minute tasks (similar to the 2 minute rule Kristin blogged about a while back).

Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work.
- Thomas A. Edison (click to tweet)

October’s brave intention was to go to brave heights. Sounds pretty lofty, huh? But I’m framing it in a way that will hopefully sound a little more attainable…keep moving and you’ll get to your destination. My 10-minute breaks help me wear away the giant pile of to-dos so I can keep moving, even if that means I’m moving kind of slowly.My 10-minute tasks from this past week (November 11 to today):

  • Contacted 2 people for interviews on Campfire Chic
  • Folded the towels and put them away
  • Wrote a testimonial for a blogger/coach I greatly admire
  • Updated my notes for the media kit that’s been on the back burner for months
It may not seem like a lot, but to me, it’s a great amount. It helps me keep things moving and helps get me closer to more naps! My challenge for you this month is to take 10 minutes to do something you’ve been putting off. Get it off of your list and move on.

What 10-minute tasks could you do today?

 

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One Little Word - Brave via Campfire Chic

It’s the time of the year when I hate looking at the calendar. I feel like December 31st is this giant deadline that looms over my shoulder starting October 1st, even if the deadlines don’t really exist.

Maybe it’s the idea of the year coming to an end that makes me think that my projects should be winding down as well? Or maybe I just need that deadline so it finally happens?

Either way, this month’s BRAVE intention is to be brave enough to forgive and as the Campfire Chic mailing list saw yesterday, I’m focusing on forgiving myself this month. I want to forgive myself for not finishing my impossibly long task list, I want to forgive myself for not working on inversions as much as I would like, and I want to forgive myself for having one of those nights where I would much rather go to bed early than crank out more blog posts.

Yesterday’s newsletter got me thinking: Let me pick three projects I could most likely finish/make BIG progress on before the end of the year? And thus, Operation: Finish Projects was born.

That darn quilt - That’s right, it’s still not finished. It is 80% done, it just needs some binding along the edges to finalize it. I hate to admit this, but we started using the quilt without it being done…but it’s chilly and we aren’t using the heater in the living room (the couch is in the way right now). I think this is something I can finish one morning while Alex is out for a run.

One Little Word - While I really do believe the class was a really fantastic way for me to keep my OLW in the front of my mind throughout the year, I didn’t really dig all of the assignments. My plan is to do the assignments that resonate the most with me and to add print versions of the 12 newsletters I sent out this year to the Campfire Chic mailing list. I think those writings really captured my feelings toward BRAVE and the monthly intentions. I also plan on adding some song lyrics, manifestos found online, and maybe another visual project. I’m waiting for the December assignment to go up in the classroom, so I can’t exactly finish this one until next month.

Project Life - I’m woefully behind with this year’s Project Life layouts, but I do have a TON of photos waiting to be organized in the pages. That’ll help, right? I won’t be doing updates to show each spread as I finish them, but I hope to share some specific weeks (ones involving trips or special techniques) once things calm down a bit. This project is a little different because my “year” is March 10, 2013 – March 9, 2014. I would like to be up to week 38 (Thanksgiving week) by the end of the year.

I’m hoping that I won’t have to forgive myself for not catching up/making progress/finishing these darn things. I’m hoping that writing about the projects will motivate me to keep going.

What are you looking to finish by the end of the year?

 

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One Little Word - Brave via Campfire Chic

As my BRAVE year comes to a close, I’m already throwing around ideas for 2014′s One Little Word. I love putting these emails together and the response that comes from them — I really appreciate when readers hit reply and tell me about their goals and how they plan on making those plans happen. While the following post isn’t exactly the same as the email I sent in September, it has the same bones.

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Can we chat really quickly about this whole being brave thing?

It’s awesome.

That probably sounds very toot-my-own-horn right about now, but I’m talking about the responses I get from readers. It’s pretty awesome. You’re being brave in amazing ways. You’re taking on challenges like nobody’s business. You’re changing the way you view the world and how you deal with difficult situations. You’re freaking awesome.

This month’s intention is “reach for brave limits” and I want to talk about trying new things.

Sure, I write about trying new things in my “from a beginner” series, but those blog posts are specific to certain activities. I want to focus on smaller opportunities to try new things, because sometimes jumping into a new hobby is overwhelming or can be expensive. Starting small may lead to bigger things…

I’ve always heard that it takes 21 days to form a habit. That number turns me off right away! Twenty-one days seems like such a long time that I don’t want to even start whatever it is, let alone finish it! So instead of thinking about creating habits I like to just try new things – if it’s something I dig and it clicks, it will probably turn into a habit down the line. I’m eating kale regularly and can’t remember the last time I had an orange soda from McDonald’s so I think I’m doing something right. But let’s be real, we’re probably going to try things that are way more fun than eating kale…things like a new workout, a new video game, trying new painting techniques, and wearing galaxy leggings sound way more fun than eating kale…because they are.

Small things to try this month:

  • make a recipe you pinned on Pinterest
  • take a different route home from work
  • buy a domain for that project/blog/shop you’ve been dreaming of starting
  • change your direct deposit to send a small percentage directly to your savings account
  • purchase that mystery fruit from the grocery store and research what to do with it
  • introduce yourself to the new neighbor

What did I do in September to push my limits and try new things? I did the Pinterest recipe thing! So here’s the thing: I pin all these recipes and I don’t do anything with them. One day, I decided to pull up a couple of recipes from my Pinterest board and buy all the ingredients I would need for them. I’m not known for my cooking prowess. In fact, Alex does all of the cooking and if it is up to me, I’d rather just go out and buy something to eat. It’s terrible, I know. So I tried something new and made this one-pot wonder tomato basil pasta (substituting whole wheat noodles and adding mushrooms) and this quinoa & sweet potato stuffed portobello mushroom recipe. They’re not particularly difficult, but they inspired me to make a big pot of chili to have ready for dinner when I get home tonight – let’s be honest, chili is better the next day, right? I’m working to get over my uncomfortable feelings about cooking and trying new things.

This week, I plan on cashing in the CorePower Yoga voucher I bought online to get back into the game. I quit my last studio for reasons and my home practice is getting a little stale after being sick twice in as many months. I need a change and while I’m terrified to go near the tall goddesses I see going into the studio on my way to REI, I’m going to do it.

What are you going to try this month? What is holding you back?

 

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I have a confession: I make a lot of excuses.

Excuses to avoid doing housework. Excuses to not launch new products. Excuses to not workout.

So many excuses.

Also…I’m scared. I’m scared and hide behind my excuses. I use my excuses to stay sheltered and safe. It’s one of the biggest reasons I chose BRAVE as my One Little Word for the year. It’s helping me try new things, like acknowledging my excuses and getting help with them.

One of the brave things I did recently was get a 90-minute coaching session with Katie Lee of The Small Change Project.

I was terrified and wanted to make a thousand excuses to not follow-through with the meeting, but I sucked it up, woke up early, and met with Katie last Friday to chat about things.

Without going into too many details, IT WAS 90 minutes of AWESOME.

Talking to somebody who doesn’t really know me, isn’t familiar with excuses, and somehow knows exactly what questions to ask so I answer my own questions was totally inspiring and mind-blowing all at once.

Why you should talk to somebody about your dreams and goals:

  • talking about your goals makes them feel more real
  • you may find the answers you were looking for
  • the other person may be able to help – you never know until you ask!
  • you shouldn’t have to keep it all to yourself, that’s a lot of pressure

I found it super helpful to talk to somebody who didn’t know me very well (Katie, in this case) when trying to figure out long-term goals, but I also know that I need somebody to talk to about short-term goals, and that’s when I go to somebody who does know me well – Amy of Lemon and Raspberry (who only has 1 spot available through the end of the year, so you better get on that).  Going to somebody who knows me well makes me feel more accountable and like I truly have somebody on my team.

My brave challenge for you: book time with a coach (Katie and Amy are fantastic, seriously) to take a brave step in the right direction to realize your goals. Consider it an investment in your dreams.

 

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