I overheard one of my coworkers the other day lamenting the fact that it’s mid-November and she didn’t feel like she did anything of significance over the past year. She didn’t stick to her resolutions, she didn’t get into the grad program she was hoping to start in the Spring…and there was more. She listing all these things she didn’t do this past year and it didn’t sound like it was in an “oh well” sort of way but an “I’m a terrible person” sort of way.
This month’s intention is to be brave enough to forgive.
What does she need to do? Normally, I’d say she needs to get over herself and get back to her cubicle, but that’s not a good response for a blog post like this, right? What she needs to do is to forgive herself. She needs to forgive the fact that she failed at keeping her resolutions, forgive herself for not staying on track to get into a grad program when she wanted, and whatever else she was complaining about.
But let’s be honest: forgiving ourselves is often times harder than forgiving others. We are our own worst critics, right?
So I want you to do me a favor this month. I want you to let go of the ridiculous expectations you had for this year and I want you to write down everything that you did accomplish this year. Your list doesn’t have to include amazing things like traveling overseas for a month or quitting your day job to work for yourself, they can be simple things like learning to make a mean meatloaf or buying your first pair of climbing shoes.
It’s the little victories, remember?